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This is What Lgbtq+ Men Are Ravenous For
Everyone loves validation. Gay men often suffer from a scarcity in the validation department. When you don’t receive enough of something as a kid you can be hungry for it for a very long time.
What Didn’t Happen
Here’s what probably didn’t happen to you:
When you were in first grade and wanted to hold hands with the tall teen in your classroom, no one told you it was “cute.”
When you had a crush on your third grade reading teacher, your parents didn’t beam and tell you someday you’ll increase up and partner someone just enjoy him.
In sixth grade you didn’t use hours on the phone with your best friend, talking about the hunky boys in your class.
In eighth grade you didn’t engage spin the bottle with a bunch of males in your parents’ rec room basement.
In tenth grade you didn’t cry in your mother’s arms when the dark haired kid from Spanish class swiftly dumped you.
As you got ready for the prom no one said that all the boys at the dance would be eyeing you in that fantastic tuxedo.
The bottom line is that this core, built-in part of you – your sexual attraction R
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Article by Hugo Mega (edited by Alyssa Lepage)
I used to think that “coming out” was going to be the hardest part of existence gay. That, being free to be me, I could finally stop pretending. I would be able to drop the heteronormative disguise that I used to wear, to ensure that I belonged and that I felt safe. Little did I realize that in the years that followed, more often than not, I would find myself butch-ing up, trying to be more masculine than what I naturally was. How did I locate myself here again?
Like walking on thin ice, any false travel I made, could easily fling me back into a loop of old patterns that condition my ways of being and behaving without me even spotting it.
Tired of this self-limiting pattern, I decided to confront my beliefs around masculinity. Since then I’ve been engaged in deconstructing my conditioning and notions of what it means to be a man. In the process of deconstructing my beliefs it was difficult to avoid one’s own toxic masculinity. I used to believe that being same-sex attracted absolved me from being toxic like many straight man can be, but I was wrong.
In this article I will be reflecting on personal experiences and different p
10 Things Gay Men Should Discuss
Top 10 Things Homosexual Men Should Discuss with Their Healthcare Provider
Following are the health issues GLMA’s healthcare providers have identified as most commonly of concern for gay men. While not all of these items apply to everyone, it’s wise to be aware of these issues.
1. Come Out to Your Primary Healthcare Provider
In order to provide you with the best nurture possible, your primary nurture provider should know you are gay. Knowing your sexual orientation and sexual behaviors will help your healthcare provider offer the correct preventative screenings, and order the appropriate tests. If your provider does not seem comfortable with you as a lgbtq+ man, find another source. You can consult the LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory for assist finding a provider.
2. Reducing the Risk of Getting or Transmitting HIV
Many men who have sex with men are at an increased risk of getting HIV, but the ability to prevent the acquisition and transmission of HIV has improved drastically in recent years. If you are living with HIV, anti-HIV medications can aide you live a normal lifespan and prevent you from transmitting HIV to your sex partners (Trea
18."I'm 40, and I came out nearly about a year-and-a-half ago at 38. My wife passed away in January of 2019. About five or six years prior to her passing away, I started to realize that I wasn't straight, and figured I must have been bisexual person, as I would only ever fantasize about men and watch gay porn exclusively. I was happily married with two kids. We had a normal marriage and sex life in every way. I kept my sexuality to myself, as I felt it was irrelevant and that there was nothing I could perform about it. I would never play around on my wife, and I couldn't imagine hurting her or the kids by coming out and getting divorced. I resigned myself to holding onto this secret forever. I felt mourn at times, because I met my wife at a young age (18), and she had been my only sexual partner, and I knew that having a sexual or romantic exposure with a male was something that I could never have."
"After she passed away, I started seeing a therapist for grief. I was holding onto an insane amount of guilt, though. Part of me felt responsible for her death, as if my entity bi or male lover and that feeling of regret somehow caused it. Eventually, I came out to my therapist and slowly started coming ou