Handkerchief gay
You’re sipping your too-sweet and too-strong cranberry cocktail and you look behind your shoulders and you see them. They’re leaning against the bar counter, inky boots shining, hips tilted, a red bandana hanging out of their right pocket. They possess a whiskey and they look in your direction. You can see their eyes registering your face then traveling downwards, their gaze lingering on the red handkerchief folded square and tidy in your ripped jeans, in your left back pocket. They saunter over grinning at you and it’s making you smile nervously and expectantly. They get close and tilt their brain while asking that sweet, age-old question: “Are you flagging?”
And you’re not entirely sure what they’re talking about. Adequately, I’m here to help.
What is flagging?
Flagging, or the hanky code, has been around for some time, some utter since the gold rush. It became popular in the 1970s when lgbtq+ men used handkerchiefs in certain pockets to signify sexual acts they were interested in giving/receiving — often in public parks or bathrooms or around the town.
I’m not a history specialist and I’m just going to narrate you: before you go and stuff a navy handkerc
When two men are negotiating a sexual encounter or even compatibility to spend time, the phrase “What are you into?” will inevitably appear from one or both.. Quite often in “Grindr” chat, this is shortened to be simply “into?” — just like ships used cyphers (flags) to communicate, we homosexual men have our own way to communicate sexual preferences and proclivities. It’s called the Hanky Code.
Originating in the early 1970’s in either New York or San Francisco (let’s not even try to agree that debate), the hanky code is a system of signaling sexual preferences, fetishes, and roles by choosing to wear a specifically colored bandana on a particular side of the body. With just a glance at your rear end, (the bandana being tucked in your support pocket) anyone who is in-the-know will know what you’re “into!”
So how undertake you know which color to wear, and where to wear it? The first critical variable is the side of the body on which you choose to wear your colors, because this signals your preferred role:
- Left side of the body = Top/Dominant Role
- Right side of the body = Bottom/Submissive Role
As a way to remember which is which, regard that we study left to right, so left comes first. Simila
Fifty Shades of Gay – The Hanky Code
Fetishes fascinate me.Actually, it’s not the particular fetish that I find interesting, but more the journey of self-discovery that leads a person towards a particular fetish.For example, there is a fetish known as Tamakeri (Japanese translation: ball kicking) Yep, it’s just what it sounds like; the erotic pleasure of being kicked in the nuts.Uh… that’s a ‘hard pass’ for me, but I have questions.
How does a person with an erotic paraphilia (a condition characterized by abnormal sexual desires, typically involving extreme or dangerous activities) discover these desires? What was their “A-ha” moment? When does a man realize that he derives sexual stimulation and satisfaction from getting smashed in the balls? Was it a lousy bounce on the playground? An unfortunate ricochet on the tennis court? And once a gentleman discovers that hammering his nut-sack turns him on, how does he find others who divide this very specific inclination towards CBT (cock and ball torture)? Inquiring minds want to know.
Fetishism today has become commonplace enough to be considered cocktail chatter. We’ve been spoiled by the internet, which has taken the mystery out of almos
Flagging for some hanky panky – deciphering the gay handkerchief code
By Chris Williams, updated 4 months ago in Lifestyle / LGBT people and culture
Have you ever noticed a guy with a coloured bandana or handkerchief sticking out of his help pocket? Bless you for not knowing how wearing one became the symbol of a secret sex language. Here’s how to decipher what it all means.
The hanky code has been a part of underground gay culture for over 40 years, and if you don’t recognize what it’s all about, we’ll get you up to speed in no time.
Perhaps more prevalent in the leather community, you might still find a few practitioners of this means of secret message. But what’s the hanky code?
What is the hanky code?
It’s pretty straightforward. Wearing a coloured handkerchief or a bandana in a particular location on your body can be a way to indicate to somebody else what considerate of sex you like. Colours or patterns portray a different sexual task, while the positioning indicates your preference of role.
The Hanky Code | Emen8(#NSFW)
The bandana is often on display sticking out of a endorse pocket, or occasionally tied around the upper arm.