Gays talking dirty
“Most Gay Couples Aren’t Monogamous”? That’s Not Dirty, a Secret, or True.
On the very day the lofty court struck down the Defense of Marriage Perform, Slate’s Hanna Rosin penned this buzz kill: “The Dirty Little Secret: Most Gay Couples Aren’t Monogamous.”
There’s a lot to respect about this instinct to rain on the lgbtq+ parade: I myself am constitutionally predisposed to glance for what we haven’t achieved on days when others are popping champagne to celebrate what we have. (I grappled with this personality flaw in a recent piece on what marriage means to me, where I pledged myself to celebrating a potential DOMA victory “fully and without reservation”—and I proposed to my lover in the same piece, so maybe I’m a little sore at Rosin for crashing the party.)
Then there’s the fact that her heart was in the right place. She wasn’t pointing out lgbtq+ promiscuity to argue against our right to unite but to weigh a question many gay advocates who value the unusual quality of queer customs have raised: How might gay marriage not simply succumb to the trappings of existing marriage but improve the hoary and besieged institution with fresh models of partnership and intimacy?
But whatev
‘I felt like I was dirty’: experiences of gay men diagnosed with mpox in England
“After I left the clinic, I got very emotional. Not because I had monkeypox…But I felt let down by the way the discourse, and the way that the infection, the virus or whatever it is, was creature portrayed as adv. It took me to a place where I just didn’t expect to feel in terms of my encounter, as a homosexual man, with lots of privilege in lots of ways. Usually I felt like I had dignity in the [health] service and the way I am treated by the government and the likes of that. And it just kind of really sped away suddenly.”
A recent study found that men diagnosed with mpox, clinicians and community stakeholders trust that the government's perceived inaction towards the illness was due to its association with stigmatised sexual minorities. This systemic failure was often compared to the initial response to the AIDS crisis.
Glossary
stigma
Social attitudes that suggest that having a particular illness or being in a particular situation is something to be ashamed of. Stigma can be questioned and challenged.
cisgender (cis)
A person whose gender identity and expression matches the biologic
There’s very little hotter than someone keeping up a constant stream of steamy, throaty descriptions of everything they yearn to do to you during sex — there’s also very little that’s more vulnerable to actually try doing yourself. For many of us, one of the amazing things about sex is that it represents the climax of all that work about expressing desire and risking rejection from the other person and we finally obtain to just savor ourselves; why set yourself out there all over again?
Well, verbally as adv as physically expressing desire during sex can really deepen emotional intimacy and your partner’s security; and for both long-term and more casual partners, it can really cement your connection as the best sex of their experience. Getting into messy talk during sex can also actually help you endure more present and engaged with what you’re thinking and feeling, as adv as opening up throughlines of message for both you and your significant other. But how complete you get started? Here are some steps to getting more comfortable and confident with muddy talk:
Start talking in bed, full stop
Obviously, when we’re in bed with an activity partner, intense or casual, miniature talk isn’t necessarily
Recently,courtesyofPeople for the American Way's Right Wing Watch, I read Ohio anti-gay activist Phil Burress produce a claim that gay men have "as many as 200 sex partners."
A day later, Burress' outrageous claim continued to haunt me not only for its inanity but because it brings to light something which has been dwelling in my consciousness for a long time in little bits and pieces.
I've scan and heard so many accusations against the LGBT community by the religious right that I've now come to the ending that these folks are just sloppy with what they express. Seriously, it's as if they don't care that eventually someone will demonstrate just how incoherent their claims are.
So with that in mind, bear with me here. The following are the claims made about the LGBT community over the years by religious right and anti-gay activists:
Gays are sick people:
Their [gay] minds are perverted, they're frankly sick people psychologically, mentally, and emotionally. - Bishop EW Jackson
Yet almost all gays construct lots of money:
You perceive, I saw yesterday how much -- how much money the homosexual community has. I signify, good gracious, the average lesbian makes four time